You were born. That means you have a mother and a father. That means they have a mother or a father. Generations of your family must have had to be born just for you to be here.
And whether your parents are still in your life, whether or not you have a good relationship with them, whether you have siblings, whether you have grandparents,
If you have people in your life that you love, then you have a family.
I asked a small number of friends whether they are closer with their siblings or their parents, and 64% said siblings. The fact is, we’re all so lucky to have some kind of family, whether parents or siblings, in our lives. In fact, I don’t think i’ve ever met someone in this country (or my part of it) with no family or extended family in their life.
You know why I brought this up?
I went to South Africa last summer to help out at a school that my old school sponsored. Out of my favourite class of kids, only one person who had both of their parents. When we went into the boarding houses, about 7 or eight people per room, rooms the size of about half a classroom here, not one of the people boarding there had any parents. And these kids smiled brighter than I’ve seen people here do. They laughed louder, loved harder and do you know why?
They realised that you can decide who your family is as much as your genetics can.
Some of the friendships I saw, they choke me up even now. The way they had each others backs, the way they moved as one person, just the love they had,
They were more like sisters than I’ve ever seen.
So do you know this Tuesday’s homework? Send a message, email, text or letter to someone you call family. Whether it be blood or not.
So this blog is my letter. To my friends, M, A, H, J, S, C, E and D, my mum and dad, my step mum and siblings, to my aunt, uncles and cousins, to my gran and her boyfriend, to all the people who I love and can call my family,
Thank you for being in my life,
Love, Hea xx