You shouldn’t be made to feel weak for feeling  

I’m not going to give you any of that, ‘toxic masculinity’ spew which you’ve heard one too many times. Nor am I going to try and get through to people who won’t either read this or even care. But I was having deep conversation with a boy who’s been through something awful and he kept on apologising and apologising and when I finally asked him why he was sorry he says, ‘because I’m being such a pussy’.

I’m talking to another boy about some deep and heavy topics and what he’s going through and he says, ‘I don’t talk about this stuff much, it makes me feel weak.’ Intrigued by this link, of talking about feelings equating to weakness, I ask a guy whether he feels like he can show his emotions or hurt to the people of the same gender and he said, ‘not unless I was to be called a fag.’

When you’re upset about something, big or small, about family or friends or foe or anything in-between, surely you’d want to be able to talk about it? To be able to show you’re upset? You’d want to know you have friends, well, not even friend, but an environment where you feel like it’s okay to? 

Plenty of people reading this, and yes I am planning on sending this to people in particular who I think would benefit from reading this, will be thinking ‘but it’s such a ‘gay’ thing to do to cry’ or ‘it makes them a ‘pussy’’ or just be thinking that it makes a guy weak to cry,

But why?

Put aside what ‘you think a guy should be’. Put aside what your parents do or what your friends do,

Why shouldn’t boys be allowed to cry?

They’re allowed to laugh without being mocked, right? Allowed to smile? Allowed to joke around? Well then, why shouldn’t they be allowed to cry or be upset or talk about something deeper or more intellectual than last nights’ football game?

So this is a plea to all. If you’re a girl, then don’t laugh at or seem surprised or even make jokes because a guy cried.

And to guys?

Be the friend you’d need when you’re upset. Don’t think it’s ‘cool’ or ‘hot’ not to show your emotions. Don’t thinking that feeling is a sign of weakness,

When in reality it’s just strength,

Love, Hea xx

Author: hopingeverafter

i’m a 14 year old girl who loves nothing more than putting a pen to paper. there's something beautiful about manipulating the English language to provoke an emotion, and it's what I love to do. if you have anything to say about my blog then I'd love you to.

4 thoughts on “You shouldn’t be made to feel weak for feeling  ”

  1. Someone had to say it Lala! Well done – except, how can you enforce it. For some reasons, unclear to the female gender, the male has this problem wedged deep in his DNA and at all ages, generations, creeds, faiths and levels. It would be a wonderful life’s work if you could make it both work NOW and re-engineer male brains for the future.
    Bravo darling, all my generation would back you and clearly it makes sense to yours. Good luck my great girl
    Gaggy xx

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  2. feel like this applies to girls as well, the feeling of being embaressed to cry or show emption idk though. Said so perfectly xxxx

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  3. I’m a guy and I cry all the time. I don’t see what’s wrong with it. People really should realise that no matter your gender you should be able to express your emotions openly through whatever means. Great job on the blog 👍🏻!

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  4. Wow Lara I loved this just like every other post of yours. You write so eloquently and it all makes sense. Hopefully the closed minded people end up reading this, you speak nothing but the truth and it’s great to read. Xx

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